Since we spent the entire month of August discussing shyness, I want to spend a little time this month discussing the other side of that coin. Last week, I talked about The Assertiveness Myth. This week, I'd like to talk about the myth that every good communicator can always convince the other person of anything. The problem with this myth is three-fold: 1. It puts a great deal of pressure on the communicator. If you think you will be able to convince everyone, you'll be a very stressed and frustrated communicator. 2. It puts a great deal of pressure on the one he's trying to convince. As we discovered in last week's article, assertiveness isn't the answer to every issue. ...
June is Effective Communication Month so, to celebrate, Art of Eloquence is hosting a contest here on the blog where you could win free Art of Eloquence studies of YOUR CHOICE! Here's how it works: CONTEST RULES/HOW TO ENTER: 1. Submit a family-friendly, funny or sweet story of miscommunication. The story could have happened to you in "real life," you could have heard about it happening to someone else OR you could write one out of your own imagination. It can be funny like a Foot in Mouth Man episode or a sweet and inspirational story. Preferably just a few sentences or a paragraph, but there is no limit to the length if it's a good story. 2. Post them...
We have a new feature here on Communication FUNdamentals called Interview with a Communicator. We all communicate every day of our lives and communication touches every aspect of it. So...each week, I'm going to bring you a blog interview with someone in a different ministry, business or time of life to share with you. Each will share the mission God has them on and how effective communication plays an important role. We begin with a friend I met online. BeckyJoie Thombs Oakes is a “multiple hat wearer” and a free-lance writer. She spends her time volunteering to work with youth as well as lay-counseling ministries at a local Christian counseling center. She has three sons. She lives with her husband,...
ABCs of Effective Communication By: JoJo Tabares A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. -Proverbs 25:11 B e careful of your thoughts; they could become words at any moment. -Ira Gassen C ourage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. Winston Churchill D iscussion is an exchange of knowledge; argument an exchange of ignorance. -Robert Quillen E ven if you learn to speak correct English, whom are you going to speak it to?-Clarence Darrow F oolishness always results when the tongue outraces the brain. -Unknown G ood communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after....
Monday Q of the Wk. Here’s how it works: Each Monday I ask a thought provoking question about life. Pose the same question to your blog readers on your own blog along with your answer to the question. Then come back here and post a comment with a link to your blog post so we can all read everyone’s answers! It’s been a lot of fun getting to know my readers and their readers and so on and so on… This week’s question: Have you ever run into a Bad Conversationalist? JoJo’s Answer: I wrote an article several years ago called Six Ways to be a Bad Conversationalist. In it I outline six different kinds of people who make conversation...
