Relationships are All About Communication!

Relationships are All About Communication! By JoJo Tabares Good relationships rely on effective communication skills.  It's a huge part of our friendships, our parenting and our professional life.  Studies have shown that effective communicators have better relationships, closer friendships, make more money and are generally happier people.  Why?  Because effective communicators have the ability to relate with others, the confidence to express their needs/desires and possess the ability to persuade others to adopt or otherwise act on their ideas. Our marriages suffer for lack of effective communication skills: "An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of the citadel." Proverbs 18:19 The reason most often cited for a failed marriage is a lack of effective communication.  It takes both husband and wife really listening to each other and communicating their needs in order to make a marriage work.  Ask any couple married for 20 years or more and they will tell you that the secret to a successful marriage is communication. How often have you heard the marriage jokes that cite how a man doesn't know what his wife needs or wants from him?  How many times have you heard a woman say that her husband doesn't listen to her and that he isn't in touch with her feelings?  These all stem from poor communication skills.  We need to understand that our spouse doesn't read minds.  A wife needs to tell her husband what she wants from him.  A husband needs to understand that his wife doesn't always need a solution.  Sometimes she just needs to vent and only wants him to listen to what troubles her. Effective communicators have deeper and strong relationships: "He who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious will have the king for his friend." Proverbs 22:11 How many times have you wondered if something you said had offended a good friend?  Do you find it difficult to talk to a friend about something that bothers you?  There is a way to say almost everything that needs to be said in a way that allows you to remain friends.  In some cases, it may allow your friendship to grow!  This cannot be accomplished without effective communication skills. Our careers are more successful if we are effective communicators: "You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can't get them across, those ideas won't get you anywhere." Lee Iacocca Studies show that people who love public speaking actually  make more money than those who do not.  Successful leaders are successful communicators.  If you are an entrepreneur, you will need to communicate effectively with your customers but also with your  business associates, employees and suppliers.  If you are climbing the corporate ladder, you will need those communication skills in order to show your superiors that you can handle management position.  Once there, you will need them in order to lead the employees or team you are managing.  In fact, more and more companies are looking for effective communication skills in hiring and promoting employees.  Management styles in the 21st century require leading employees than delegating responsibility.  Leadership requires self confidence, personal presence, credibility, ability to persuade and explain, understanding of others, interaction and learning effectiveness which all require good communication skills. Relationships are all about communication.  Effective communication can increase the success of your friendships, marriages and business relationships.  So...what steps do YOU need to take to become an effective communicator? " A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver." Proverbs 25:11 ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer.  Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula, including Say What You Mean Defending the Faith.  You can also find JoJo on web sites such as and and hosting her weekly podcast, Communication Comedy Network.  For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit


  • Kimery

    Good words, JoJo. Fit like a glove!

  • Laurie Neumann

    I am reading Proverbs and there is so much about communication there. This morning I just read “He who has knowledge spares his words.” And it also brings to mind “In a multitude of words, there is no lack of sin.”

    We need to use our words wisely and carefully.

  • cindy holman

    You are so right on here, JoJo! We’ve been married 29 years coming this September and our marriage success and breakdown – has been because of lack of communication – and failure to pick up on the other persons needs. Once we talked – REALLY TALKED it out – and I mean REALLY TALKED for thousands of hours – we finally got it. Greg says he’s gone back to school – so to speak – to understand me better – and it made all the difference in our marriage.

  • In Our Write Minds

    You always write with such wisdom. Thanks for another great article.

  • jojosblog

    Thanks Kimery!

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