Monday Q of the Wk. Here’s how it works: Each Monday I ask a thought provoking question about life. Pose the same question to your blog readers on your own blog along with your answer to the question. Then come back here and post a comment with a link to your blog post so we can all read everyone’s answers! It’s been a lot of fun getting to know my readers and their readers and so on and so on…
This week’s question: I'm sure, by now, you've seen this video of Anita Renfroe's "The Mom Song". It is a communication marvel and always a fun few minutes spent. This illustrates all the things moms say during a 24hr period condensed into the three minutes it takes to play the William Tell Overture. How many of these mom sayings have you uttered in the last 24 hours?
JoJo’s Answer: They're funny because our moms said them to us and after years of listening to them, they just pop out of our mouths from time to time as well. It's tradition! It's habit, but if you think about it, it's not always the best way to foster real communication with your kids. If you've heard me teach my Mother/Daughter Communication Workshop, you know that the biggest issue is with the phrase: "Because I said so."
It doesn't explain a mother's heart nor does it give your child the feeling you've considered his feelings on the matter. It's just an automatic response programmed in during childhood. Consider the following exchange:
Mary: Hi Martha. How are you?
Martha: Fine, Mary. How are you?
Nobody expects the other to say anything other than fine. In fact, if and when someone does mess with the natural order of pleasantries, we are often uncomfortable and unprepared to respond.
Bill: Hi, Bob. How are you?
Bob: Well actually my gout is acting up and I'll have to get my bunions removed next Thursday!
Bill: (as he misses several steps...) Uhhhh....???
So to answer the question, I'd guess on a daily basis I say a few of them though. The one I say about 12 times a day is "turn it down". Mostly that's for my son, but sometimes it's for my dh! LOL
How many Mom Sayings have you uttered in the last 24 hours?
Learning Communication skills can also be fun with Art of Eloquence.com and there is a book I wrote called Say What You Mean for Moms that might help!