Well, this got me thinking about how effective the silent treatment really is in every day, real life. And you know what? It isn’t! Why? I’ll give you five reasons:
1. They may rather like it!
As this woman stated, many people who are angry with you might actually LOVE it if you didn’t talk to them anymore!
2. They may not notice.
If they aren’t smiling because they are happy you’re not talking to them, they may simply have not noticed!
3. It’s hard to keep it up.
Even if they did notice and were upset by it, you can’t possibly keep it up for any length of time. That is, if you have any sort of regular interaction with this person.
4. It doesn’t deal with the problem.
Not talking to someone may mean you don’t have to acknowledge them, but it may not mean you won’t be upset by them again. They may continue to do the very thing you are angry about (over and over again) because you haven’t solved the problem, you’ve only stopped communicating–on YOUR end.
5. Where do you go from there?
So where does that leave you and your spouse, anyway? Or you and your best friend? Since it didn’t solve the problem, where do you go from here? How can you get past an issue you don’t deal with?
The silent treatment may be a short term way for you to vent your frustrations. And then, again, maybe it doesn’t even afford you that much! But what it will not do is solve the problem you have with that other person. The silent treatment doesn’t solve a thing and can cause even more frustration and damage to your relationship. My recommendation is to learn to deal with conflict. Check out our sample lesson from Say What You Mean: Avoiding, Reducing and Resolving Conflicts at the bottom of the product page or any of our conflicts resolution courses and enable more blessings in your relationships.
JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer. Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula. You can also find JoJo on web sites such as Crosswalk.com and Dr.Laura.com. For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com