Speaking in Grace does not include arguing. No...REALLY!

Have you subscribed to Communication FUNdamentals’ RSS Feed?  Don’t miss a post! x It's Grace Month here at Communication FUNdamentals and we're up to number nine in my article 10 Quick Rules for Disagreeing in Grace.  I pray these have been a great blessing and, if you know someone who might benefit from them, please pass the blog links along!  Without further adieu I give you another ah...don't! 9. Don't Argue Art of Eloquence created a puzzle download with a very powerful saying on it.  "Don't argue with a fool.  Someone watching might not be able to tell the difference" -Author Unknown  Arguing only inflames the other party and renders them incapable of really listening to what you have to say.  Arguing never persuades anyone and if it does, they certainly would never admit it! Arguing very rarely wins friends or influences people.  It doesn't even register on the "Convictor Scale."  So why do so many do it?  Well, simply put, it's because human beings get frustrated and, when frustrated, we tend to do things that resemble the definition of insanity.  You know, saying the same thing over and over and expecting a different result...from our listener. It's human nature to repeat ourselves when we are faced with listener confusion mostly because we don't know any other way to put it any other way. lol  However, repeating the same words doesn't clarify things with said listener, it only frustrates our listener at which time he frustrates us by not understanding and repeating HIMself.  And as the Breck commercial said, "And so on and so on and so on..." At this point, instead of clarifying we often find that what results is an argument.  Now if you think it was frustrating before, you'll experience new heights, or should I say depths, when this comes to argument! And once an argument starts, it's human nature to grow the argument.  It's difficult to work our way out of an argument even more so than it is to work ourselves out of the repetition that started it all. What do we do?  Well, my newest study, Say What You Mean: Avoiding, Reducing and Resolving Conflicts goes into this in great detail, but I can tell you that conflict can be resolved by breaking this pattern.  Depending upon the situation, you can either drop the issue or admit you are having a hard time explaining it.  Work through it or work around it, but whatever you do, DON'T continue to argue!   x *SUBSCRIBE HERE*: For Even More Communication Fun, FREE Gifts and Exclusive Offers! x


  • Cindy Holman

    I’m pretty passive and non confrontational, usually. I’m not quick enough to think of the right ‘come-back’ until too late. Sometimes, this has saved me from an ugly situation – and I’m always surprised how people can argue and spew their anger all over me – when I’m so peaceful – it’s amazing.

  • jojosblog

    Thank you, CW.

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  • jojosblog

    Me too. One of my fave quotes.

  • Carla

    I love that quote about “someone watching might not be able to tell the difference.” So true! I have to watch this very carefully. I’m an arguer. However, usually by the point the conversation turns into an argument, you’ve lost them anyway.

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