A while back, I posted, Did you really want to say THAT on Facebook? so when an obscure Facebook “friend” posted this on my wall, the idea for Did you really want to DO that on Facebook? was birthed.
It happens occasionally on Facebook. I call it the I’ve Got a Christian Cause so the Ends Justifies the Means Disease. This is where people send you a friend request and then never interact with you. They never reply to or “like” any of your posts, never answer when you post on theirs, never post on your wall UNTIL…they begin asking for help with their ministry/business.
I don’t mind if, once in a while, one of my Facebook friends lets me know they are involved with a charity and asks for my help by posting on my wall. If I can afford to give, the cause is something I believe in and the charity is on the up and up, I’ll help. If I can’t, maybe I can simply pass along the information. Just by virtue of it being posted on my wall, allows my Facebook friends to see the need. However, when someone ONLY posts on my wall for the express purpose of advertising their wares or plugging even a legitimate charity in a way that smacks of spam, I see that as a problem. Here’s what I mean.
This particular person posted a very long comment about his charity on one of my most popular posts of the day complete with link, hype, tear jerking story and desperate plea. The only thing that didn’t come standard was a tissue. Notice how, as a comment on a post that had MANY replies, his request for money was automatically sent as an email to each one of the people who had replied to my completely unrelated post. How convenient for him, hmmm?
At the time, I was willing to extend grace thinking he might just be an over zealous, kind soul who didn’t understand proper Facebook social networking etiquette so I left his comment there. However, the very next day I found the exact worded, lengthy comment to my most popular post of THAT day. I got curious to see if this was a duplicate or if this was his Modus Operandi. Sure enough, his entire Facebook wall was replete with time stamped indices of HUNDREDs of duplicate copies of this exact comment he had left on other’s posts…all of which were their most popular posts of the day! There wasn’t one post on any other topic or any evidence that he ever left a different comment when replying to anyone else. I unfriended him. I didn’t see any use in pursuing a friendship with someone who had no desire to connect beyond asking for money.
You may ask why I didn’t contact him in order to share my insights about how he might find a more constructive way to share his mission with others. I’ll tell you why. I’ve met Mr. I’ve Got a Christian Cause so the Ends Justifies the Means before. They always sing the same song and it’s a waste of precious time to attempt to show them the error of their words. They don’t have time to be nice; they are too busy doing good things. They don’t have time to communicate with each individual; they are doing the Lord’s work. It doesn’t matter how they communicate; God demands boldness. If others take offense, so be it; I’m blessed to be a martyr for Christ.
God’s Word is filled with scripture that tells us to speak in grace. Over 4500 scriptures deal with our mouths, tongues, lips and words alone! The ends don’t justify the means in sharing your God-given mission or your faith any more than it does when you are trying to gain success or money.
The next time you are tempted to post something bold knowing that some might take offense, think about two things: 1) Does God really want you to say THIS? and 2) HOW would God want you to say this? In trying to answer question two, reflect on a few of those 4500 scriptures.
“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” Colossians 4:6
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JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer. Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula. You can also find JoJo on web sites such as Crosswalk.com and Dr.Laura.com. For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com
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