HOW to praise God in the storm part 1

Most Christians have heard many times how we are to praise God in the storm, but what has always frustrated me is that nobody has ever told us how to do that.  It’s hard to just begin feeling thankful when you’re in the midst of a financial mess or a loved one’s death.  Merely understanding that you should do something doesn’t help you do it.

All devotionals on this topic will tell you to read the Bible and pray.  This is obvious since we are trying to get closer to God and further away from our pain or struggle.  This is also something we should do when we are not struggling.  But just reading the Bible when you are struggling may not help your attitude turn to gratitude and you may not even know how to pray for a situation, especially if it has been a long and confusing one.

There are many devotionals on thankfulness that talk about this so I’m not going to spend much time on it since you’ve probably read enough of them to quote them verbatim.  I’ll just say that it’s important to continue to pray and read the scriptures even when we are at our wit’s end and even when we are no longer able to envision that God would help us because, the moment we no longer seek God, we begin to drift away from Him.  “Trouble and anguish have taken hold on me: yet thy commandments are my delights.” -Psalm 119:143

So how do we begin to feel thankful?  Well, last week I prepared our hearts a bit by sharing with you what we should remember.  But that often isn’t enough to bring us through from frustration and despair.  After many years upon this earth I have found some things that have helped me to become more thankful and bring me to the point where I can praise God during the storms of my life.

1. Start small and build

Thank Him for whatever blessings you can think of, even if you have a hard time coming up with things you are thankful for and even if you don’t feel very thankful when you write it or say it.  There is an old saying, “act as if.”  If you begin to thank God for the blessings, no matter how small, in your life, you will begin to see more and feel it more as you go.

Somehow my attitude changes when I concentrate on the little blessings.  I remember an old saying my relatives had when I was a child, “thank God for small favors.”  It has become a popular secular saying that has come to mean something quite different so I don’t suggest you actually say this to yourself.  I think it must have started out meaning that we should thank God for the small blessings in our lives to help us see the blessings He has given us.  Unfortunately, what it has come to mean is a snarky commentary that God only grants us small favors.

See how your attitude changes when you say, “thank God for small favors” instead of “thank you, Lord, for these little blessings?”  One suggests that’s all we expect the Lord to give us and the other reminds us that these are just the beginnings of blessings God wants to shower upon us.  That one little communication change changes everything.

Think back to all the times when you had just missed a disaster.  How do you think that miracle happened?  Envision what God must have been doing to protect you and then feel the love that lead God to that act.  I remember a time when we drove from California to ARIDzona to visit my folks.  On the way there (which is here now), we heard the brakes begin to screech.  All the men at the event thought it wasn’t a major issue so we didn’t drive the car during our visit and headed home where we planned to have them repaired.  There was a great deal of traffic that holiday on the way back and got progressively worse on that six hour drive home.  We were able to make it all the way home and, as we coasted into the garage, the brakes completely failed leaving us unharmed and safely in our garage.  Thank you, Jesus, for all the disasters we avoided that night alone!

Think back to all the times when NOTHING bad happened.  What disaster might have occurred?  Thank Him for those as well.  How many times were you thinking of going to ABC when something changed your mind and you narrowly avoided a known disaster?  My husband once decided not to go to work one day because the only route there (70 miles one way) was covered in snow and notorious for closure.  Later we found that many of the people who traveled that road were stuck down the hill unable to get home for a day or two.  And what about all the other situations we have no idea we could have found ourselves in?

2. Blessings for worst not happening

In the midst of terrible pain it’s often hard to see what could be worse and, to be honest, we don’t often care.  We just know where we are now is bad.  However, looking at the bright side can truly make a person thankful because, believe it or not, there are so many situations where we could be worse off.

Food prices up? Praise God that you have the money to buy them.  Health bad? Praise God that you have the time to rest.  Sick? As you pray for healing be thankful it isn’t fatal.  Serious illness?  Be thankful that there is still hope.  And if a loved one has passed away, praise God he is no longer suffering and is with Jesus in heaven.

Now these things may sound easy to some, but they are not at all easy to do when you are in the middle of a struggle especially when that struggle has already taken a toll on you for many years.  However, if you start small, are consistent and build, your faith will increase, your sorrow will lift and your joy will return even if you aren’t happy about your circumstances.  (I’ll talk more about the difference between joy and happiness in my next article so stay tuned.)

In the midst of despair, sadness and being overwhelmed with struggle, we may find it difficult to just pick ourselves up by our Christian bootstraps and just “be happy.”  However, these little things have helped me get just one step closer to being thankful and have reminded me that God is there with me and He’s working on my behalf even if I can’t feel Him through all that life throws at me.  I pray they are blessings to you and you can begin to see how you can be thankful and praise God during your struggles as well.

Next time, I’ll be back with some more tips that will help us to be thankful so we may praise God in the storms of our lives.

 

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What being thankful DOESN’T mean

One of the frustrating things about going through struggles is when you hear other Christians say things like:

“The only reason you are struggling is because you don’t have enough faith.”

“Your problems are because of your sin.”

“If you would only pray harder, God would answer your prayer.”

These are not only unhelpful, but they are often also unbiblical.  Comments like these don’t allow the one struggling the freedom to share their feelings and find a solution because they feel condemned or accused.

Paul suffered from many health issues and was never healed during his lifetime here on earth.  Did Paul have enough faith in God? If God didn’t heal Paul, it might be that God chooses not to heal a fellow believer.  Suggesting that if they only had enough faith, they’d be cured of cancer or have no more financial problems simply isn’t biblical.

Telling someone who is struggling with something that they simply need to have more faith only increases their suffering.  Assuming they buy this bill of goods, they will try valiantly to have more faith in God.  What happens if God answers their prayer with “no” or “wait?”  How much more frustrated will they feel then?  Assuming they don’t believe they could possibly have more faith, they may simply give up trying or trusting God.

Although some problems we encounter are due to our own sinful nature, other problems come about due to no fault of our own.  Yet I’ve heard people tell a grieving mother that her child has Leukemia because of her sin!  How’s that for piling guilt on top of grief?

Being thankful and joyful in the Lord such that we praise God in the storm doesn’t mean that we dismiss our suffering or that we cannot feel sad or angry or lost or overwhelmed.  It doesn’t mean that we are complaining if we express our feelings and it doesn’t mean that we should live our lives trying to overcome our struggles by telling ourselves we aren’t suffering or shouldn’t feel badly or don’t have the right to complain.  It doesn’t mean we spend our time pretending it didn’t happen or doesn’t matter.

Being thankful and praising God in the storm doesn’t usually come naturally.  Our natural reaction is to be anxious and afraid, to worry and to get frustrated.  It takes practice to learn to praise God in the storm.  It takes time and patience.

Job’s friends didn’t understand either, most likely because they had never experienced such dispair. Sometimes what our friends and relatives communicate to us makes our struggles that much more difficult.

While we know we should trust God, we also know how difficult that can be.  Don’t make that harder on those suffering by telling them that all they need is more faith or to stop sinning.  Don’t make it harder on yourself by telling yourself.  On Wednesday, I’m going to share some things we need to remember before we can learn to praise God in the storm and be thankful and see our blessings.  In addition, next week I’ll share some tips that have helped me learn how to be joyful in the midst of sorrow or struggle.

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Praising God in the Storm: Being Thankful Series

I don’t know about you, but 2012 has been a very difficult year for me.  The economy has taken a toll on my customers and my income from Art of Eloquence is a shaddow of its former self.  My husband’s bonuses (or lack thereof) have dropped his income by 12% in the past four years.  The aging process has had a rather negative affect on my many chronic health issues.  I think I’ve aged more in the last year than I have in all of my previous adult years combined.  Additionally, we said goodbye to our daughter, once again, in August and have had to adjust to the fact that she will no longer be able to come home as often (or for as long) as she did when she was away at college.  Grad school means she is working two jobs and an occasional 3rd and can’t take off for summers, long Christmas vacations or even get home for Thanksgiving.

I’m a goofball by nature so, when stressed or overwhelemed, I usually make a joke.  You may have noticed.  While this is better than sobbing into my soup, I got to thinking about Thanksgiving and came back to a thought I’ve struggled with for years.  Christians always say that we are to praise God in the storm, but I never could figure out just how to do that.  How do you thank God when you are going through such difficult situations.  I always felt like poor Jonah, trying to hide from God because he didn’t want to preach in Nineveh.  God knows everything including where Jonah was hiding.  So how can I praise God during the storms of my life when He knows I’m angry or sad or frustrated or overwhelmed?

Frustration, depression, anger and stress doesn’t just affect your own thoughts; it often affects how you communicate with God as well as with your family and friends.  So it’s not only important for us to find a way to praise God in the storm, but it’s important for those around us that we do as well.

I poured over so many devotionals and Christain books and articles I was practically dripping with Christian cliches, but what they never told me was exactly how to praise God in the storm.  Just how are we to be thankful when so much negative emotion fills our mind and we know we can’t hide it from the Lord?

Well, I think I figured it out. In fact, I’m working on a book called How to Praise God in the Storm.  I’ll write it when I’ve gotten a bit better at it.  ;D So until then, and because this is Thanksgiving month, I’m going to share some of those ideas and some other things that will help us praise God.  I pray that both you and I can journey together in order to communicate thankfulness to the Lord and those around us.  So stay tuned to this blog as I share them with you this month.  Won’t you join me?  And please leave me a comment with your thoughts.

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

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