Don’t let social anxiety control your life (or your child’s) any longer!

May 15, 2015 by Art of Eloquence

Do you avoid potentially enjoyable or even profitable situations because you’re uncomfortable relating to people? Does your child feel self-conscious, left out or lonely? Do social events scare or intimidate you? Does your heart ache for your child who dreads school events or parties?

Does this sound like you or a loved one? You’re not alone. Polls indicate that 40% of people consider themselves shy, but I have great news. You may not be shy at all!

Everyone has something to say, something that only they can share, something others really need to hear. Don’t let shyness keep you from it!

Most people believe that you are born shy and there is nothing you can do about it. HOGWASH!

And I’m living proof. I was a painfully shy young girl and remained so up until my late teens. In fact, I used to hope the person waving was directing it toward the person behind me so I wouldn’t have to wave back! THAT’s how shy I was!!

It took me many painful YEARS to overcome my shyness. I once thought it was part of my personality and that I was destined to be shy and lonely for the rest of my life. I was wrong! Shyness is usually just anxiety brought on by a lack of effective communication skills in social situations. Once I learned these vital skills, I found I wasn’t shy at all! And you’re probably not either! You’ll understand more when you read my testimony in this ebook.

Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety takes you through my painful struggle and teaches you to overcome your social anxiety in a fraction of the time. Even better, it allows you to do so in a fun and creative way. Yes, this eBook will not only give you the tools to become more comfortable in social situations, but it will take you through mastery and on to excellence!

What you or your child will learn in Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety:

* Seven Habits of Highly Successful Communicators

* Six Simple Steps to Conversational Self-Confidence

* Preparing to be a Great Conversationalist

* How to Start a Conversation

* Learning from Six Bad Conversationalists

* Creative Ways to Practice

* How to Meet and Greet

*Ten Quick Rules for Disagreeing in Grace

* What to Do for Your Shy Child

And MUCH, MUCH MORE!

Testimonials:

"Thank you, JoJo. I learned a LOT, thank you, thank you, thank you!  
I’m a huge fan and have almost all your books, but this seminar gave me 
tons to think about." -Shannon R.

"7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness was a superb presentation!... 
The webinar was a big help. It was so much more than tips. JoJo tells 
you exactly what to say to help your shy child overcome. She also tells 
you why your shy child feels the way he/she does and what you can do to 
help."-Carla I.

Incredible One Time Offer Just for my Facebook fans and friends!

On Tuesday, May 19th, and for ONE DAY ONLY, This powerful eBook will be available for my Facebook fans and friends for ONLY $10! Just order on that day using voucher code: 101010 and it will automatically slash the price to JUST $10!

Why are we doing this?

My husband lost his job almost 3 months ago and our daughter’s wedding is coming up in just a few weeks. BUT: Our need FILLS YOUR NEED! So take advantage of it while it’s available!

Bonus for ordering during this incredible promotion:

Notes from my seminar: 7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness–That product is worth the $20 right there! Here is the promotional video from that seminar!

What You Will Learn in these slide show notes alone:

1. Seventeen things parents should do to help their child overcome shyness

2. Seven things parent’s shouldn’t do because it either doesn’t work or reinforces their child’s shyness

3. Seven ways parents can help their children change their thinking about shyness

4. Six things parents can do to change their child’s shy behavior

5. Seven things parents can do to change their child’s shy vocabulary

6. Eight things parents can teach their shy child to say that will help them overcome shyness

7. Seven things parents can teach their shy child to do that will help them practice the skills necessary to overcome their shyness

After your place your order for Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety, forward your confirmation email to JoJo ( jojo@artofeloquence.com ) and ask to receive 7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness for free and we’ll email it to you!

Don’t let social anxiety control your (or your child’s) life any longer! Get Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety AND, my bonus gift to you, 7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness (a $49.95 value) for ONLY $10 on May 19th!

What is $10 as compared to breaking free from shyness that has a hold over your life or the life of your child? Order May 19th!

Remember, this incredible offer is good on May 19th ONLY! So….Order Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety!

*Art of Eloquence homeschool Curricula was chosen “Homeschool Approved” and is ENDORSED by The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and recommended by HSLDA!

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How to get our Conflict Resolution or Shyness Study for FREE!

August 26, 2013 by Art of Eloquence

Here’s our last Back to Homeschool Special Offer!

Buy Speech and Debate value package and get your choice of our Say What You Mean: Avoiding, Reducing and Resolving Conflicts study or our Say What You Mean: Overcoming Social Anxiety FREE!

Not only will you receive these two easy to use and fun studies, but you and your students will be able to decrease the jitters associated with making a speech by learning more about overcoming the anxiety people often feel in social situations and transferring those skills to speech making. OR decreasing, resolving and avoiding the conflicts when you or your student is debating on a more personal level.

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Click the pictures to read more about these choices:

Bonus Gift Choice

To take advantage of this free bonus offer:

Just order the Speech and Debate package at the regularly low price this week. Then forward the email confirmation of your order to me jojo @ artofeloquence .com and put either “FREE Social Anxiety” or “FREE Conflicts” in the subject line. It’s that easy!

I will email your copy within 48 hours of your order! Just remember to order and email us before midnight PST on Saturday, August 31st.

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NOTE: Don’t forget to submit your communication questions to jojo@artofeloquence.com for my monthly Ask JoJo section of my blog. I’ll pick one question per month to answer right here on the blog! You can ask anything related to communication skills from a tip on how not to be nervous making a speech to what games your kids can play that will help them hone their communication skills and even if your website or blog is clearly written!

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Birthday Bash Contest#10: Art of Eloquence

October 29, 2012 by Art of Eloquence

It’s Birthday Bash Time and you know what that means! Time for our Facebook fan page party with free gifts and, of course, our contests where you can win free prizes like this one!

From Art of Eloquence:

7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness ($20 Value)

This is the most popular of our brand new webinar topics this year! So popular, it’s the only webinar that was held over a second month! You will receive our video recording of this incredible webinar and here’s what you will learn:

1. Seventeen things parents should do to help their child overcome shyness
2. Seven things parent’s shouldn’t do because it either doesn’t work or reinforces their child’s shyness
3. Seven ways parents can help their children change their thinking about shyness
4. Six things parents can do to change their child’s shy behavior
5. Seven things parents can do to change their child’s shy vocabulary
6. Eight things parents can teach their shy child to say that will help them overcome shyness
7. Seven things parents can teach their shy child to do that will help them practice the skills necessary to overcome their shyness

(TEN winners will be chosen!)

TO ENTER THIS CONTEST: to win a download of the webinar, 7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Shyness, post a comment on this blog post telling us what you learned about our affiliate program that is different from most affiliate programs.

Winner will be selected from among the correct answers and announced by November 8th. Winner must have a valid email address and has two days to claim the prize or another winner will be chosen.

*NOTE: Check out all our other contests and our Facebook Party on our Birthday Bash Page!

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Congratulations to our 10 winners:

Terri Duncan, Heather, Carla, Rachael, Ambre, Rebecca K, Robin, Joan, Cheryl Hosmer, and Ashley!

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There is more pain/loneliness to childhood shyness than most parents understand

August 27, 2012 by Art of Eloquence

Tomorrow is the day, our second webinar, and this one is for parents of shy children!

I’m so excited to be sharing tips for parents on this topic because there is more pain and loneliness to childhood shyness than most parents understand.

These few videos (each only about a minute long) will help parents understand what parents don’t get about shyness in thier children, the secret life of a shy child and what shyness is and that it is something they can easily help their shy child overcome.

What Parents Don’t Understand About Shyness

The Secret Life of a Shy Child

And Your Child Doesn’t Have to Struggle With Shyness

You can stop the pain and allow your child to be extraordinary as God had intended. Check out the webinar today!

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Why your funny bone isn’t funny

August 24, 2012 by Art of Eloquence

…but maybe it is “humerus.”

It’s time, again, for your Friday Funny! This week, the guys at WhatYouOughtToKnow.com explain why your funny bone isn’t funny…which is rather funny.

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What is shyness?

August 13, 2012 by Art of Eloquence

I wrote this article several years ago, but shyness is such a powerful force in someone’s life, it’s worth repeating. I’m talking about shyness all month leading up to this month’s webinar on the 28th. If you have a shy child, you need to be there! Check it out here.

Spirit of Fear
By JoJo Tabares

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” -2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

Fear in speaking with others is timidity or what we call shyness. According to Webster’s dictionary, shyness means “sensitive and hesitant in dealing with others”. This is not the spirit of power that should be present inside the Christian for we know that with the Lord all things are possible and, if the Lord is for us, who can be against us?

Research shows that 87% of what we do all day is communication related. Maybe that is why the Bible speaks about communication skills hundreds of times. The Father gives each of us a mission in life and something to say that someone needs to hear. He also tells us to go out and share the Good News. God doesn’t say this lightly knowing that some are born with confidence and some are born with shyness! He tells us this because He has put within each one of us the tools needed to stand up and share with His children each in our own way.

Many people mistakenly think that shyness is a character trait or a personality flaw. It is not. For the most part, it is the result of not being comfortable or experienced with certain aspects of communication for some period of time. The longer a person has experienced himself as shy, the stronger its hold over him. Communication is actually a set of skills that can be learned and must be practiced to reach mastery. Anyone and everyone can learn them. Not everyone will have the same aptitude, but all can learn to be comfortable and confident enough in order to complete the work the Lord has given them in their life!

The challenge is to find the appropriate key to unlock and let go of the shyness within. I liken learning communication skills to swimming because the analogy is fairly accurate. When teaching a young child to swim, a common technique is to throw them into the ocean or pool. The child is supposed to use instincts to get to the other side as they are carefully watched over by their parent. The idea is that when they get to the other side, they realize that they didn’t drown and actually accomplished the goal. Unfortunately, that method works only about half the time! The other half of the time it goes like this: The child is petrified! They are thrown into the water and panic sets in. Instinctively they thrash about and somehow make it to the other side. Instead of feeling relieved and excited that they accomplished their goal of swimming, they are now terrified of water and they vow never to do that again!

So it is with speech classes. Some children run into my classes, sit in the front row and can’t wait to get up to speak! The other half are kicked in by their parents, stand at the entrance wide-eyed resembling a deer in the headlights and sit down after some coaxing on my part. What happens inside that first speech class is critical! Will they feel comfortable enough to take more steps along the road to effective communication skills or will they grit their teeth and bear it making a solemn vow before God to avoid any further speaking opportunities that might come along?

The idea isn’t to get them through a speech class. The goal is to create a more confident and powerful speaker who will have the spirit of power in the Lord! To that end, I teach with humor. It disarms the fear allowing them to forget that they expected it to be hard and scary. I don’t throw them in the water. Instead, I have them stick their big toe in, giving them a chance to acclimate their body to the water’s temperature. This allows them to take baby steps further in the ocean we call communication.

Where did I get my training for this? Some might think it was at California State University, Northridge where I got my degree in Speech Communication, but they would be wrong. It was from a little girl who was terrified to speak- not only in public, but one on one. It was that little girl who grew up lonely and afraid of so many things. It was that painfully shy girl who missed out on so much. She taught me a lot about what shy children need. Many of my students thank me for the training she provided. Her name? JoJo.

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JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer. Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula. You can also find JoJo on web sites such as Crosswalk.com and Dr.Laura.com. For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com

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Should your child be on FB? Part 1

August 29, 2011 by Art of Eloquence

Some say Facebook is a blessing allowing you easily to keep in touch with friends and family, meet like-minded people, help you find a job or even market your business. Others say Facebook is a waste of time and, too easily, an invasion of your privacy. I say Facebook is a tool, a communication tool, much like email, the cell phone and your mouth. What you get out of it often depends upon your input, expectations and most of all, how you use it.

But is it a good idea for your children? In this article I’m going to share the benefits and drawbacks of allowing your children to have a Facebook account. Due to the length of this article, I am going to break it down into two parts. In this first part, I’ll cover the benefits of allowing your child to have a Facebook account. Next Monday, I’ll post part two in which I’ll discuss the drawbacks. You may be quite surprised at what I have to share on both sides of the issue!

One of the benefits of allowing your son or daughter to have a Facebook account is that it is a fantastic way to hone his communication skills. By interacting with friends and family on Facebook, your child will learn to tailor his message to each individual as he posts comments on Grandma’s wall or to little Jimmy who moved away last month. He’ll also gain description skills that communicating via the phone or in person would not afford him. Body language, facial expressions and tone of voice are absent from Facebook posts. It becomes necessary for Bobby to effectively describe the school project he had to do for history class instead of just show it to Jimmy. Facebook, if used in this manner can help increase his writing skills, especially if Bobby utilizes the Notes feature in order to write up his views expressed in his paper on Abortion. There are many examples of communication lessons to be learned by allowing your son or daughter to express themselves in writing on Facebook. These are but a few.

A second benefit of allowing your son or daughter to have a Facebook account is in increasing his expertise when interacting with folks of different beliefs and cultures. I’ll talk about the warnings of allowing your young children to get on or friend people he doesn’t know in part two, but let’s assume Bobby is 16 and has relatives in other states or countries. What a wonderful opportunity to learn about their culture and experiences! He’ll learn how other cultures see the world, how they live and may even see pictures recently taken of the Liberty Bell, or the Washington Monument or Big Ben!

An additional advantage is that your child will learn how communication works in the technological age they live in and will work in. Many companies are now hiring people to man Twitter and Facebook accounts in order to help customers who post they are having trouble with their company or product. I’ve had a very large company contact me via the social networking sites after I posted that I was having a hard time with one of their products. He helped me solve the problem! While your son may not be hired to do this, he will very likely need to understand the inner workings of communication in the technological age. In addition, Facebook has been used to catch criminals, to find a job, to recover a child during an Amber Alert and to ask for help or prayer with some serious matters. Facebook is not only the wave of the future, it is a most efficient way to disseminate information and get feedback!

Facebook is also a great way to stay in touch with family around the country build relationships with them and friends who moved away. I mentioned this earlier, but this may be the only way Bobby can have much of a relationship with his brother who is deployed or his grandmother who is back east. I have found Facebook to be a blessing in staying connected with my daughter while she has been 1800 miles away at college, when she was half way around the world as a Russian exchange student for a semester and when she was on a missions trip in Israel for two weeks!

Finally, Facebook is a fabulous start to overcoming shyness. Shy people are more likely to make friends or talk to friends if they can do so without having to be intimidated face-to-face. This can help build their confidence and self esteem enabling them to transition from online communication to in person conversations.

As you can see, Facebook is simply a tool. Used correctly, it can enhance your child’s communication skills and friendships. However, there are also some dangers. I’ll talk about them next week.

Can you think of any other benefits of allowing your (age appropriate) child to have a Facebook account? Share your stories and experiences with my readers!

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Leadership Communication

February 9, 2011 by Art of Eloquence

Leadership is another one of those everyday things that require communication skills. Leadership isn’t just about making speeches, but about gaining acceptance of your ideas.

Leadership is all the buzz right now, but leadership is so much more than power or charisma. Leadership, Godly Leadership, true leadership, is so much more than that!

Leadership requires us to step out of our shyness.

Leadership requires us to speak in a godly way according to the Word.

Leadership requires us to communicate our vision and that we are someone worth following.

Leadership Insights:

“Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” –Dwight Eisenhower

“The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint to keep from meddling with them while they do it.” –Theodore Roosevelt

“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” –John F. Kennedy

“Good leadership consists of showing average people how to do the work of superior people.” –John D. Rockefeller

“Character matters; leadership descends from character.” –Rush Limbaugh

“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” –Proverbs 11:14

Tips For Leaders:

* Keep a journal of notes on ideas for furture reference
* Get organized by using a planner or Outlook Calendar so you never miss an important meeting/event.
* Prioritize your time
* Be flexible. Things won’t always go your way and sometimes that’s a good thing. Be open to new ideas.
* Remember to thank those who help you. A little thank you goes a long way!
* Keep learning. Continuing education is essential so you can keep up with any changes in your field.
* Keep honing your communication skills.

For more leadership insights and training, visit the Art of Eloquence Leadership Page!

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For God has not Given us a Spirit of Fear

August 23, 2009 by Art of Eloquence

For God Hath Not Given Us the Spirit of Fear
By JoJo Tabares

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” -2 Timothy 1:7 KJV

So it is with speech classes.

Read the rest of the article here.

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Why your funny bone isn’t funny

What is shyness?

Should your child be on FB? Part 1

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