Effective Email (part one)

Communication has evolved a great deal in the technological age.  I’ve talked about what kinds of communication are best for various situations, I’ve pointed out the pitfalls of different forms of communication and I’ve discussed how they each have been misused.  This week, I’d like to begin a brand new series of articles that will share the details of writing an effective email.

Email is a form of communication that most people use and are familiar with, but as JoJoism#20 states, Do not mistake speaking for communicating.  One involves an ability and the other mastery.”  The same concept is just as true of the informal written word called email.  Just because we do something often, doesn’t mean we do it effectively.

Have you ever sent someone an email and had them either not reply or reply with a question about what you meant?  This is usually a result of ineffective communication in one or more parts of your email.  Since most people use email and some use it almost extensively, this will be a very powerful study in communication that will give you practical help in making your every day correspondence extremely effective.

This will be a seven part series that I will share over the next few weeks so make sure you’re subscribed to our RSS feed so you don’t miss any part of it.  I’m going to take each part of the email one at a time.  Today’s post is about your email address.

I know, it sounds a little silly.  After all, how important could your email address be in the scheme of things?  What difference could it possibly make what your email address is?  Do people really notice anyway?  The answer to these questions is very, huge and yes!  Here are four reasons why.

1. Your email address communicates something about you.

Just as your first impression means a great deal when you meet someone, your email address presents a first impression of you to those who receive your email.  PickledPigsFeet@MSN.com may give you a giggle, but is it really what you want to represent you when you post on your Yahoo group?

2. Your email address should communicate a positive image.

IHateMyJob@Yahoo.com may let off some steam, but is that what you want to reflect on each time you send an email?  Is that what you want others to see about you when you post?  How might that be interpreted should it get back to your boss? Don’t say who you don’t want to be.  Choose an email address that reflects who you do want to be.

3. Your email address should be God-honoring.

If I’m a professing Christian, every part of me should honor God.  Not just the words that come out of my mouth, but the clothes I wear and the groups I associate with all communicate who I am in Christ.  Just as these contribute to making a God honoring impression, so do our virtual forms of communication.   We wouldn’t choose a letterhead that was offensive and so we should also be careful that our email address is not.  I’ve seen some pretty strange email addresses that, while I may not term them offensive, I certainly wouldn’t say they honored the Lord.  Having a positive and God-honoring email address that describes me will help make a good impression just as my clothes, handshake, manners and speech do when I’m in person.

4. Your email address will be judged through a cultural and personal filter.

Only God knows our heart. All others judge us through a filter that is based on their personal, professional and cultural world view whether we like it or not.  Through this filter goes every aspect of our communication to them.  In a face to face conversation, it’s our voice, our eye contact, our words and expressions, etc.  In an email, it starts with our email address.

If you use your email for the sole purpose of communicating with close friends, that is one thing.  However, if you use your email address to contact customer service at your bank, your son’s baseball coach, or your customers, CutiePatootie@hotmail.com might not earn the respect and support you desire.

SIDE NOTE: If you are a WAHM with your own business, you need to get a more professional email address.  If you have your own domain, you should always use your domain email address.  And while you’re setting up that email address, make sure it reflects who you are in your company.  Think about what your customer or supplier or business associate would think if they saw that email address associated with your company?

Effective email begins with the impression you make that reflects who you are and that begins with the email address. Think about it this way.  When you were born, your parents gave you a name.  You had no choice in the matter.  When you set up your email address, you get to choose.  Choose wisely!

I’ll be back on Wednesday with part two of my effective email series.  Stay tuned!

I’d love your comments and, if you’ve found value in this post, please…

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FBI Headquarters Wants ME!

I end our first week of Effective Communication Month with a real life spam funny.  This is an actual email I received last week.  Notice how “realistic” it looks?  ROFL  This one’s pretty funny and, even though I’ve never had any encounters with the FBI, I can tell this is not something I need to respond to.  What’s wrong with this picture?  How can you tell this spammer isn’t really the FBI?  Here are a few big red flags:

1. The subject line says, “Email from FBI.”

I’ve never received an email from the FBI, but I don’t think my first contact with the FBI would be an email that said, “Email from FBI.”

2. The From field says “FBI Headquarters” which has an email address of  Robert Mueller @ Mueller.com.

I don’t know much about the FBI, but I seriously doubt that an agent would use his personal email address to correspond with someone he doesn’t know.  Doesn’t that sort of…I don’t know…”Blow his cover?”  In addition, it appears that Agent Mueller has his own business.  At least I don’t think Mueller.com is another AOL or Gmail.  I guess the FBI doesn’t pay what it used to.

3.  The time stamp says it arrived in my inbox at 10:42 pm.

I guess Agent Mueller was working late at FBI Headquarters that night.  Or was he working on his business and just forgot that he didn’t send me this attachment?

4. It is addressed to infors @fbi.gov.

It appears Agent Mueller has sent this attachment to a bunch of us.  If he had just sent it to me, wouldn’t it be addressed to jojo @artofeloquence.com?  For that matter, doesn’t it look like Agent Mueller got things a bit backwards?  Shouldn’t it be FROM infors @fbi.gov and TO Robert Mueller?  Come to think of it, shouldn’t it be from INFO @fbi.gov?  Was this a misspelling?  Typo?  Or did he mean ENFORCE @fbi.gov?  Maybe FBI agents can’t spell.

5. Doesn’t the text message appear a bit…sparse?

I’d be willing to bet that the FBI doesn’t often use flowery language and probably isn’t real big on detailed explanations to private citizens, but “Email from FBI?”  Shouldn’t it say something more…I don’t know…descriptive?  “Meet me behind the old shack at noon.  And come alone!”  LOL

6. The PDF attachment title also appears a bit GENERIC.

Oh, wait!  I know.  Of course!  It’s purposely nondescript in order to hide its true identity!  “document1.pdf” is code for something like, “Blueprints of the First National Bank of Nigeria.”

Wait!  It’s ALL in code!  That’s why it looks so ridiculous!  It’s all just to throw the others off the track.  I’d better open that attachment and see what it’s all about.  The FBI NEEDS me!  My country’s counting on me!  It’s probably some top secret G14 Classified mission!

Oh…Um…just forget everything I posted.  Uh…I wonder if I can get that memory flashy thingie from Men In Black.

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Top Five Communication New Year’s Resolutions

Top Five Communication New Year’s Resolutions for 2011
5. Stop forwarding emails that say “send this email to everyone you know”
4. Stop using the term BFF…when I SPEAK!
3. Stop texting my friends…who are standing right next to me!
2. Stop sending Aunt Mildred email cards remembering she’s never owned a computer.
1. Stop nagging my dh at work via email…I’ll just pick up the phone.

New Year’s Resolution Quotes
“Many people look forward to the New Year for a new start on old habits.” -Anonymous

“A New Year’s resolution is something that goes in one Year and out the other.” -Anonymous

“An optimist stays up until midnight to see the New Year in. A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves.” -Bill Vaughan

“May all your troubles last as long as your New Year’s resolutions!” -Joey Adams

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You Might Be a Skimmer…

By JoJo Tabares

momAs so many of us scramble to make ends meet, we have become a nation of caffeine-addicted rushers.  We’re late!  We’re late!  For a very important date!  No time to say hello, goodbye.  We’re late!  We’re late!  We’re late!

A bunch of Alice in Wonderland White Rabbits, we race from one thing to the next and seldom slow down enough to really understand what’s going on around us.  We can’t.  We don’t have time!  As Willy Wonka stated, “I have so much time and so little to do!  Strike that.  Reverse it!”

With so little time and so much to do, we find ourselves becoming a nation of skimmers.  We skim through our emails and even our conversations.  We listen with our “To Do” List running through our brains and we miss half of what is said.  That gets us into some hot water when we either miss an important piece of information or Aunt Mildred’s upset because we were only pretending to listen to her.

So how do you know if you’ve become a skimmer?  How do you know when it’s gotten so bad and you are missing so much that your relationships are suffering?  Well, fortunately, I’ve developed a test.  Of course it’s written in my own comedic style…and, as Wonka also said, “A little nonsense now and then…”  Here are seven ways to tell if you’re a …SKIMMER!

1. If you have ever run into a friend on the street and, as she’s talking, you begin planning your dinner menu for the week and when you get to Thursday you realize you are nodding to NO ONE…you might be a skimmer.

2. If you have ever read an email three times for the first time…you might be a skimmer.

3. If you have ever had a conversation with someone who repeatedly says, “I just said that.”…you might be a skimmer.

4. If you have ever shown up to a party on the wrong date…you might be a skimmer.

5. If you have found yourself at a black tie affair dressed in blue jeans…you might be a skimmer.

6. If you have had a conversation with your mother about several emails she sent you and find only half of it even vaguely familiar…you might be a skimmer.

7. If you ever had a one-hour, in-depth conversation with someone after which you not only couldn’t remember who it was with, but what you talked about…you might be a skimmer.

Skimming can be dangerous to your information and your relationships.  Believe it or not, skimming actually costs you more time to do things over again than you saved by skimming in the first place.  Slow down, America!

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JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication.  Her Christian and humorous approach to communication skills has made her a sought after speaker.  JoJo’s articles have appeared in various homeschool magazines and websites such as Dr. Laura.com.  Her Say What You Mean curricula is endorsed by The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and her eBook, Say What You Mean When You’re in Business, has been used by direct sales leaders and small business owners alike.  For more information, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com

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Email Speak and Text Art

The Information Age is rife with new communication such as emoticons and email shorthand.  Those who grew up in it understand this “language” but others are just learning.

“Oh ((((Mary))))  r u ok?  I’ll cu l8tr 2nite.  U have a g8 wkend w/o him.  ;D”

Did you get all that? Maybe you need a translation.  “Oh, Mary (hugs).  Are you ok?  I’ll see you later tonight.  You have a great weekend without him. (wink/smile)”  But texting and email has produced some interesting text art too.  Take a look at the things you can use to help you communicate over the information superhighway!

@};— Rose

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(::()::) Bandaid

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,,,,,,,,,,,.,,(___)O Bunny

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Hope you enjoyed those as they are the only ones I can do.  Have any of your own?  Post them here!

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Are your emails effective? They can be!

Have you ever written an email you thought was clear only to have the recipient reply:  “What on earth are you talking about?”   Do you occasionally find that your email misspeaks?  Did you ever NOT say what you meant to say over email?  I think we all have had times like these, but with a few easily implemented tips, these can be fewer and farther between!

Join me in the next few months as I begin a new article series just for my newsletter subscribers on effective emailing!  These articles will eventually make their way into a book that will be offered for sale on the Art of Eloquence website.  However,  if you are one of our newsletter subscribers, you can get all this information for free beginning tomorrow morning in my very first What’s New at Art of Eloquence eNewsletter series of articles on effective emailing!

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Email Poll

Email is the number one preferred method of communication these days, but is our email communication effective?  What renders it ineffective?  What could strengthen it and make it more persuasive?  When would it be best to just pick up the phone?  These are the issues I’m going to be covering in a new article series I’m writing exclusively for my newsletter subscribers over the next several months.  If you are not currently receiving our newsletter, you can subscribe here.

It started with this month’s newsletter article and continued with a discussion I had with my dad last week, but I believe most of the misunderstandings now take place over the internet.  Email, texting, social media and Yahoo groups are immensely popular ways to communicate these days.  As of February of this year, Facebook alone has 175 million people logging in each day (according to Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg).  Studies show that only 7% of face-to-face communication is made up of the words we use.  The rest is in our body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc.  This means that most of our communication with each other now takes place devoid of 93% of what makes up communication in a face-to-face conversation.

Apparently all our texting habits and email shortcuts are having an ill effect on our communication skills.  A study done in 2005 by the Journal of Employment Counseling revealed, “Employers said students needed stronger writing skills; more training on professional uses of e-mail; and additional education regarding self-expression, impression management, and avoidance of slang.”

This brings me to my discussion with my dad last week.  How much does society’s lack of effective email communication skills contribute to misunderstandings and hurt feelings? Does a person’s poor grammar, spelling, lack of punctuation, overuse of abbreviations and general lack of communication skills over email present an image such that what he says isn’t taken seriously?  And if so, in which situations is that most detrimental?

According to research, our general lack of effective communication skills combined with our reliance on technology instead of face-to-face communication is a huge societal problem.  I thought I’d conduct a little unscientific poll to see what my readers think about this issue. Would you mind answering 3 questions for me and passing this link along to those you know?  I’d love to get as many responses to this as I can before I begin my article series on email.

As the two men from Bartles and James used to say, “Thanks again for your support!”

1. Would you be less likely to be persuaded of something if it were presented by someone whose email or post was riddled with spelling and grammatical errors or who used words incorrectly?

2. Would you be less likely to consider someone’s business proposal seriously if it came in the form of a poorly written email?

3. Would you be inclined to think someone is less intelligent if his email contained multiple errors that were obviously not just typos? (using an incorrect word, repeated spelling errors, bad grammar, etc.)

BONUS QUESTION:  Do you have any email pet peeves?

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Word to the e-Wise

I came across two true stories about miscommunication over email that ended up leaving the writers with egg on their faces.  Be careful not to inadvertently (or on purpose) send a private email to a list.

According to snopes.com, in June of 2003, an intern at a prestigious law firm inadvertently sent a fairly unprofessional email intended for one party to about 40 employees including 20 partners.  The email in question used foul language and seemed to indicate that the intern was intentionally goofing off at work.  His mistake was immediately noticed which necessitated a formal apology.  He apparently was eloquent enough in his apology to remain gainfully employed at the firm.

Snopes.com confirms another email mishap which occurred in June of 2005.  It seems a secretary in a law firm in England somehow got ketchup on her boss’s pants.  The day she returned to work after her mother’s funeral she found an email from her boss asking for four pounds in cash, the cost of his dry cleaning.  As her salary was about a fourth of his lawyer’s salary, she sent a sarcastic reply suggesting that the office take up a collection for him.  Apparently she copied several people in the office in on the correspondence when someone leaked it to the newspapers who demonized the lawyer and made the two of them a household name.  The attorney had planned to leave the firm just prior to the publicity and the secretary was said to be thinking over her employment after feeling isolated her former boss’s supporters who felt he was unfairly victimized.

These two incidents give us a glimpse into how important it is to be careful about even our informal communication.  Take care to choose your words wisely, respectfully and carefully.  You  never know who might be reading.

A word of communication caution from your friends at Art of Eloquence.com!

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