HS Article #6: Good Questions

Each Monday, I’ve been sharing the most effective ways to answer some of the common questions homeschoolers are asked.  I have already discussed five issues: why, legality, socialization, education and extra curricular activities.  I only have two more issues I want to address and this week’s issue is good questions.

There are many good questions to ask yourself when you are thinking about home education so it is only logical that others who are unfamiliar with homeschooling would ask them too!  We’ve already discussed socialization and what options are open to homeschoolers for activities.  Here are a few more.  Answering these questions is pretty straight forward.  As Sargent Friday used to say, “Just the facts, Ma’am.”

1. How much does it cost?

Other than time, many ask how much homeschooling costs as a consideration before starting their homeschool journey.  It was a concern for us as well, but for different reasons.  My daughter was attending a private Christian school from K-4th grade.  While many private schools can be in the thousands of dollars, hers was a mere $300 a month.  It was a small private school so there was only one 5th grade class and the number of students decreased substantially as the grades progressed (She would have been one of only 8 students in her 5th grade class).   So when we found out that it would only cost us about $150-$200 to purchase her school materials for the year, we jumped at the chance to save hundreds of dollars each year in tuition, uniforms and school fundraisers!

For a few years, we homeschooled two children for about $300 a year!  I once discussed the cost of homeschooling with my sister who also had two children, but enrolled in public school.  We compared notes and found that while I had the responsibility to pay for all their books, due to budget cuts and misspending my sister paid almost as much each year for her children’s free public school education!  Not only were parents were required to purchase school supplies for each child, but classroom supplies such as chalk and tissues as well.  To add insult to injury, she also was required to buy gifts for the teacher.  The PTA forced each parent to give the teacher gifts for his/her birthday, Christmas and for each day of Teacher Appreciation Week!

2. How do you know what do teach?

A valid question easily answered.  Some states have guidelines posted on a website for public schools.  At first, I went to the department of education website to research each subject for each grade level.  However, since many of the public schools are academically below most homeschoolers and may teach things objectionable to some homeschool parents, I find there are better sources.

I think the best way to find the right curricula that prepares your student properly is to talk to veteran homeschoolers you trust.  Having access to a local homeschool group or online group is an invaluable resource for information and support.  However, you can also find a trusted homeschool or private school curricula publisher like ABeka or Bob Jones to provide your texts or even just to compare as a benchmark to follow.

Another great way to teach with excellence is to find veteran homeschoolers with an expertise in a subject.  Many homeschoolers have published fabulous curricula that is created just for homeschoolers.  I also appreciate that there are many that are written from a Christian perspective.

This is why I produce my own speech communication studies.  I found there was a need for speech communication studies that were presented from a Christian perspective with an approach that was fun and easy for parents to teach.

3. What about things like the prom and graduation?

While the prom and a graduation ceremony aren’t vital educational concerns that should steer us toward or away from a particular educational choice, it is a concern.  Most of us remember our prom and high school graduation ceremony with some amount of fondness.  It’s a right of passage, a milestone.  And it is not exclusive to public or even private schooled students.

Many homeschoolers coordinate a group graduation ceremony where all the local members get together for a custom designed event for all the graduates.  I once belonged to a large homeschool group where this was done each year.  It was slightly different each year according to the wishes of the students and parents of those graduating.  What a blessing to be able to create your own ceremony and celebration according to the wishes and needs of each graduating “class.”  I remember being a bit disappointed with my prom and feeling like just a number in my huge graduating class.  Homeschoolers can create a unique and special event that highlights each student and his or her achievements with as much or as little pom and circumstance preferred!

Another option some homeschoolers choose is to have a party for family and friends on their own.  I’ve known homeschoolers who have two hundred guests at their home or several hundred at a local hotel!  Some have chosen to take a trip with close friends where they can create memories that will last a lifetime.

Yet others, like my daughter, see no need for a large celebration.  Kelsey didn’t want a big party; she wanted to get on to the next phase of her life as a college student.  She said high school graduation wasn’t as important in the scheme of things and she preferred to look forward to college graduation when it would really mean something to her.

How ever you and your children feel about it, homeschoolers can experience a prom or graduation ceremony in any way they like with a little planning.

Please feel free to post a comment with your prom and graduation ideas or experiences!  I’m sure my readers would love to read about them!

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JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer.  Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula, including Say What You Mean Defending the Faith.  You can also find JoJo on web sites such as Crosswalk.com and Dr.Laura.com and hosting her weekly podcast, Communication Comedy Network.  For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com

Stay tuned next Monday for my final article in the series, “A Question of Homeschooling” when I will share the dumb questions homeschoolers are asked.

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Poor Article on Poor Communication Skills

I came across a link to an article about poor communication skills this past weekend which both confused and amused me.  As a student of communication and an author of various studies on the subject, the title intrigued me: “Communication Skills Worsening.”   However, the article (and I am really not sure this qualifies as an article.  It looks more like a blog post.) was not very well written or documented.

The article reported that the number of children starting school in New Jersey with poor communication skills was rising and that one reason for this was that families “spend less time doing things together out of doors.”   It went on to say that the Department of Education, Sport and Culture was sponsoring outdoor activities training for what appears to be the local nursery school staff in order to remedy this problem.

I have read many studies and articles over the years stating communication skills are on the decline, but I have never heard this lack of skill related to not being out doors with family.  The relationship between the two escapes me and apparently I am not the only one as the only comment on the article raised the same concern.

The article seemed quite casual for what appeared to be a large news website, though I had not heard of the site.  I decided to find out more about the organization thinking the article might actually be just a blog post with someone’s random thoughts.  I found an “About Us” page.  Displayed prominently were three pictures of women who appear to be three of their reporters, but the captions don’t list a bio about them.  Instead a fashion report is given on what they are wearing in the picture.  I don’t remember where, but after clicking around for some time, I found information that suggested this was a news organization based out of the U.K. since the early 90’s employing various reporters.  I was a bit confused as many of their stories have to do with New Jersey.

Going back to the article, I tried to discern more about what it was trying to share.  Unfortunately, the more I read it, the more confused I became.  I may be missing the boat entirely, but I had several other problems with this article/entry.

1. It didn’t include a date or the name of an author.

2. It didn’t include an introduction or a conclusion.

3. It did not explain what the Department of Education, Sport and Culture was.

4. It had absolutely no facts or evidence, quotes or references to back up the assertions being made.

Not only did this article or entry confuse me, but the entire site did as well.  After spending some time searching the site, I am still at a loss to understand its purpose.  So, unless I am missing something, this is a poor article on poor communication skills. lol

I bring this up for a few reasons.  First, information is abundant on the information superhighway, but so is misinformation. Secondly, if we are to be effective here on the web whether it takes the form of blogging or social media or a website, we must communicate clearly.  Lastly, we not only must communicate each message clearly, but we must also communicate the purpose for our blog or website as well.

If you are endeavoring to share your thoughts on a blog or website, it is helpful to post your blog’s purpose or mission statement.  When you are sharing an article or blogpost, it is also beneficial to communicate clearly your purpose for sharing this particular article or post.  Similarly, if you have a Twitter or Facebook page, you should post a bio so folks know what you are about when trying to decide whether or not to connect with you there.   You have no idea how many people I find with absolutely NO information about themselves to help potential friends or followers.

In the end, I guess this article did persuade me that its title was true!  Communication skills ARE on the decline. Fortunately with a little attention to detail, education and practice, anyone can communicate more effectively!

If you would like to communicate more effectively in order to share the ideas God has put on YOUR heart, visit Art of Eloquence.com and see how we can help!

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10 Fun Ways to Teach Kids Communication

Communication FUNdamentals: 10 Fun Ways To Teach Children Effective Communication Skills
By JoJo Tabares

“A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Proverbs 25:11

Communication skills are vital -especially in the information age. Studies show that effective communicators are happier, do better in school, are more successful and make more money than their less eloquent counterparts. So how do you teach your children to express themselves better? The FUN way!

The best way to teach children anything is to make it fun and involve as many of their five senses as possible. Here are a list of 10 games/activities that will foster effective communication skills in your children.

1. Play Telephone. The more the merrier. This old elementary school game is a delightfully fun way to develop your child’s listening skills. This game is perfect for any age. Begin with a simpler message for the younger children and gradually increase the size and complexity as they get older.

2. Directions to Fun. Have your older child write out directions from your house to somewhere fun; for example, the ice cream shop. Preferably give the directions to a third party who is unfamiliar with the area, and have him follow the directions precisely. Did you get there? If so, have an ice cream cone! If not, talk about what went wrong in the communication. What could be changed that would help get you there the next time. This is a wonderful exercise to help children from 4th through 12th grade learn to give better directions. But it also is a lesson in itself about communication. In order to effectively communicate what you want, you must learn to say what you mean so that others can fully understand.

3. Dress for Success. Go to the store or any other public place dressed in your Sunday best. Notice how you are treated. Next go to the same store or a similar location dressed shabbily or inappropriately for the occasion. (Ex: to a Mercedes dealership in old jeans and a worn out T-shirt) Notice how differently you are treated. This illustrates that their nonverbal communication has consequences. You will want to point out that strange person walking on the street and do a little of what I call “brain washing”. Paint them a picture of the consequences of the communication that is sent when people wear skimpy clothes or dress like hoodlums. Tell them what their choice of clothes is saying to the average person…to a prospective employer. Give them the facts on how this will impact their lives a year…two years…ten years down the line. Tell them what could happen tomorrow if someone draws a conclusion based on those clothes that puts them in harms way.

4. Talk n Listen. Have your child sing Yankee Doodle while another person recites the Pledge of Allegiance. See how long they can go without flubbing it up. If your child can do this too easily, have each one read from a different book. Tell them to each take turns relating what the other had read. This helps illustrate that old saying that God gave us two ears and one mouth in order that we listen twice as much as we talk.

5. Um Contest. Have your child talk about a familiar topic. Any topic. For example, his/her favorite activity or book. See how long he/she can keep from uttering “um”, “er”, “uh”, “like”, or “ya’ know”. This develops the child’s confidence as well as eloquence. Eliminating these “words” in your child’s vocabulary will cause the him to focus on becoming more articulate and increasing his vocabulary.

6. Feed Me Applesauce. Blindfold someone and have that person feed applesauce to another blindfolded person. Have a third person who is not blindfolded giving the directions to both parties. This teaches students to give directions more effectively.

*NOTE* This is messy! Fun, but messy! You will want to make sure that your children are not wearing their good clothes and that this activity takes place on a bare floor and not carpet.

7. Presentation. Have your child give a presentation of sorts to a local retirement home. This can include giving a craft demonstration, playing piano for them as in a short recital, singing or reciting a poem. This teaches your child how to present him/herself. This can be done with children of all ages. The sooner you get your child comfortable talking in public, the better. It will become like second nature to them and they may be able to avoid the biggest fear that most people have: PUBLIC SPEAKING. Studies show that people who enjoy speaking in public are more successful than those who do not. So get them out there showing off the talents God gave them!

8. What’s Going on in the Picture? This one is great for the little ones. Have your child tell you what he sees in a picture. Encourage him to describe the scenery, the people, the colors…anything he sees. For older children, have them talk about what they think might have just happened before this scene and what they think will happen after. This gives them practice in formulating ideas in a logical manner that others can easily understand.

9. Finish a Story. This one is also very good for different age groups. Kids love stories! You start off a story and have your child finish it. For very young children, you can tell them a nursery rhyme and have them make up an alternate ending or add on to the story. This exercise is great for teaching beginning verbal communication skills.

10. Impromptu Speech. This exercise is wonderful for children of all ages. Pick a topic that your child is familiar with or just loves and ask him/her to speak for about 2 minutes on that topic. After a while, have your student graduate to speaking on more difficult topics and/or for longer periods of time. You can start them off by talking about their favorite movie and eventually graduate them to controversial topics like prayer in school.

“You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can’t get them across, they won’t get you anywhere.” Lee Iacocca The more your children practice communication skills, the more effective they will be in communicating their needs and ideas. The more fun you can make it, the more they will want to practice these essential skills.

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JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication, but it is her humorous approach to communication skills which has made her a highly sought-after Christian speaker and writer.  Her articles appear in homeschool publications, such as Homeschool Enrichment Magazine and The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, which also endorses her Say What You Mean curricula.  You can also find JoJo on web sites such as Crosswalk.com and Dr.Laura.com.  For more information on communication FUNdamentals and Christian-based communication skills for the whole family, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com

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Making a list and forgetting it twice

“I write down everything I want to remember. That way, instead of spending a lot of time trying to remember what it is I wrote down, I spend the time looking for the paper I wrote it down on.”  -Beryl Pfizer

What has organization to do with communication?  Read my article, Organize Your Communication and find out just how much!

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You write it! She rights it!

My dearest friend and my co host on Grace Talk Soup, Carla Ives, has been interviewed by Take Root and Write in their Ministry Spotlight!  You’ve just GOT to read this!  She is so funny as she answers the interview questions!   And the interviewer, is another of my dear friends, Joan Rudder Ward!

Here’s a taste:

These are just a few places where your thoughts and ideas translate into words that need to relay important information to your particular audience. These are the moments when your work needs to reflect excellence, as these are opportune times to shine and convey your professionalism, the times where you may not get a second chance at that first impression, times when it’s important to have someone edit your work.

Our ministry spotlight person today is someone that can help you make that good impression.Meet Carla Ives, Editor, who helps your written work be the best that it can be. Carla has a delightful, quick-witted personality and is an easy person to converse with. We talked about her ‘gifting’ of eagle eyes and of that inner ear that can hear and help you convey the heart-message of your written word.

Joan: Carla, tell us what you do and a little background on how you discovered your gift.

Carla: (laughing) Well, I call myself a ‘Purveyor of  Fine Words.’ Fancy way to say that I am in love with language, expression and presentation!  I’m not sure exactly when I discovered this “gift.”  As a child, I read everything I could get my hands on. I practically lived at the library. Good spelling has always been instinctive with me. I won every spelling bee I ever entered. I guess it naturally flowed that I would “learn” to spot things. I’ve been proofing and editing for over 15 years now.  I “formally” turned it into a business two years ago.


It’s a fabulous article about an amazing lady written by an incredibly talented soul! Great article Joan!

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New Articles! New Show! New Study!

Happy Thursday Communication FUNdamentals readers!  Writing your blog posts ahead of time gives new meaning to the phrase “time flies when you’re having fun” cuz here I am on Monday writing as if it’s Thursday.  I have one toe in the future contemplating my newest gray hair!  As if I wasn’t getting old fast enough on my own…!  ROFL

writingFor months I’ve been telling you that I’m going to be adding some new articles to the Art of Eloquence site.  You probably thought this day would never come but here it is!  How did this happen you ask?  Well, to be perfectly candid, I’m supposed to be writing some new eBooks but I hit a wee bit of writer’s block and I’m playing hooky from it for a few minutes.  I spruced up some of my old Tuesday Tips articles that were buried under mounds of old blog posts and popped them up on Art of Eloquence.  Violin!…I mean, viola!

I have a few of them up there for you, but here’s one I thought would be very timely.  With everyone trying to figure out this Twitter and Facebook thing, I thought I would point out one of my new articles that might help you communicate more effectively on social networking sites that allow limited space:  How to Say What You Mean in 140 Characters or Less!

Another great and FREE resource is my internet radio show, Grace Talk Soup.  Today is the first day of our new format with my new cohost!  If you are reading this before 8am PST/11am EST, then jump right on over to the show!  Today’s topic is Hecklers and the Lost Art of Civility.  If you are reading this after 9am PST/12pm EST, then jump right on over to the show!  LOL  And listen to the audio!  😀  The all new Grace Talk Soup stars Ethel the Editor and Lucy Linguist staring in “I Love Language”!  Don’t miss the fun each week!

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FIMMology 101: The Study of the Humorous Sins of Our Mouths

Speaking of which…If you are into fun, I have a brand new communication study for you that you will just adore! FIMM is our resident mascot and MIScommunicator.  He sticks his foot in his mouth so often he has Athlete’s Tongue!  He does so for your entertainment and education.  This is the most fun you could have studying communication skills.  Let Foot in Mouth Man illustrate the hilarious reasons why communication skills are so important and give you tips for more effective communication through reading the best of his 130 + MISadventures! Each episode is PACKED with communication lessons and discussion opportunities with your children!

It’s Thursday!  Do you know where your communication FUN is? Art of Eloquence.com!

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