Secret Agent Facebook Friend
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I agree wholeheartedly! Whenever I get a friend request, I immediately go to their profile to see what I can see. If there’s nada, zippo, nuttin’ honey, I ignore it. I try to send messages when someone might not know me, but I’m sure I’ve forgotten a time or two. That’s on me if they don’t accept my friend request.
Online thingies are very different from real life, but the principles remain the same. Good job on pointing this one out! I mean, hey, isn’t there some rule of law that you’re actually supposed to know something about your gazillion FB friends? LOL
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Good points here JoJo. I’ve had the same thing happen to me too. It’s annoying – which is why I try to keep my profile pretty open. I want people to be able to find me when doing a search – and if I’m so locked up in the privacy settings – I appear ‘invisible’ to them. This is no good when people are trying to use facebook to connect. I know what it feels like to be ‘blocked’ to – from someone I considered a good friend. I can only assume that they don’t want to see my name or comments keep popping up on their home page. Oh well. No problem. And I must admit that ‘blocking’ is a must when you very definitively do not want people seeing your information or having a say in your daily life and interaction with others. I have had to block a few myself for this reason.
On the other hand – since we can control who we talk to – or who we friend – it seems plausible that I don’t have to lock down my info so tightly that others wishing to get to know me (a friend of a friend – or someone from my past that’s looking for me) can safely do so. If there’s a problem that I sense – I can either do two things: 1, hide their comments and info on my home page or, 2, delete them altogether. People are not notified if you delete or block them. They just can’t see your info any more.
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Good point, Ellen, but not all are trolling. Most that I’ve encountered just don’t realize they are presenting friend requests with virtually no info.
Kim, I think you are right. Most people have probably encountered this whether trolling issues, as Ellen pointed out, or otherwise. It can be frustrating.
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I think you’ll find many who agree with you. I’ve had that happen too.
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I believe that this technique is called “trolling”. They just put stuff out there and see who will take the bait. In this virtual world of social network friends, many people are way too accepting of strangers requests to become friends IMHO. After all, if we turn down a request the requester is “rejected” or “ignored”. How harsh is that?
I must check out what I can about ANY friend (physical or virtual) because I must be discerning about the company and counsel I keep. I agree that a personal little message as to why we might connect would be helpful. When I have gotten these blank invites that have mutual friends I will at least resins by sending them a message “how do you know me?”. Legitimate requestors answer while trolleys don’t.