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Survey: Do You Like Valentine's Day?

There is so much hype about Valentine's Day, but I know several people who really don't like to feel forced to celebrate. It feels too commercial or they feel it's too much pressure to be memorable.  I was wondering if it really did communicate love at all anymore or if it was just a day couples felt they needed to celebrate or their partner/spouse would feel left out.  Do you think Valentine's Day communicates love? Or do you feel it's too forced/commercial?  Here's a little survey. Please share your thoughts.  1. Do you celebrate Valentine's Day? Why or Why not? 2. Is Valentine's Day meaningful to you? 3. What would make Valentine's Day meaningful to you?4. Do you think Valentine's Day...

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How to Communicate Love Part4: How do you know?

Pulling this month's blog series all together, here's what we learned from this blog series so far: Words don't always communicate love, but specific details communicate love more effectively. Actions communicate love. Thoughtful, personalized, and even inexpensive gifts can communicate more love. How do you determine what your spouse considers showing love? Listen! 1. Listen to the comments your spouse makes when he/she receives a gift.  Listen to what they don't say.  Read between the lines. 2. ASK!  Trust me when I say that it doesn't ruin the mystery if you go right up to her and ask what kinds of ways she likes to feel your love.  It doesn't destroy the space/time continuum if you ask your husband how...

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How to Communicate Love Part3: Gifts

Okay so we talked about words and actions that show love, but there is another way to communicate love and that's with gifts.  Does your gift need to be an expensive trinket or token?  Not at all.  In fact, the most precious gifts don't cost much at all!  What they do cost is thought, time and preparation. I have an incredible niece. She's a treasure.  She recently had her 16th birthday and I wanted to give her something special.  Instead of a nice article of clothing or an expensive piece of jewelry, I created a photo album for her to keep her memories in.  I purchased a special photo album in her favorite colors and filled the first few pages...

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How to Communicate Love Part2: Actions

Last week we looked at communicating love with the words we use, but there are so many other ways to communicate love!  We often don't even have to say a word to show someone that we love them.  Here are just a few ways: 1. Hugs A hug is a love language most people understand.  Sometimes no words are necessary.  The hug has healing powers.  It transforms empty words into a feeling like nothing else can. And how long should a hug last?  A quick hug is what guys do for each other.  They don't want to linger too long over a hug with another man.  But a hug between spouses should last longer than it takes to regain your...

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How to Communicate Love Series Part1: Words

Saying the words is only one way that you can tell your spouse you love them, but how many times have we heard people say things when they don't really mean them?  They say talk is cheap and it is.  We allow words of hate to slip out of our mouths all to often and things are far easier said than done.  How many of us gals ever dated a guy who said they loved us, but what he really meant was he WANTED to? Unless the other party really feels your love for them, these words are almost meaningless.  Ever have a fight with your brother after which your mother made you say you were sorry?  You said the...

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