The Spaghetti Test Method of Communication
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A lot of it has to do with the anonymity of cyber communication, in my opinion. So you said the wrong thing and hurt someone’s feelings? Tough! They’ll get over it. You’ve probably never met them face to face anyway, so. . . The problem is they may NOT get over it. That last verse about an offended brother is spot on. Oh, they may not say anything to you, but you will see their comments die off and pretty soon, you’re unfriended, as maybe you should be. The real problem I see is if this attitude spills over to your face-to-face communication, God forbid! Can you still just throw it to the wall when you’re looking someone in the eye? I know for a fact I’m more careful when I’m talking to someone in person; however, your article, JoJo, is an excellent reminder that we can’t just have something out there and hope for the best.
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All my kids are adults now (18+… not necessarily behavior!!!) but throughout their childhood and adolescence, there were frequent occasions when they would say something in the form of an observation that was hurtful to or about someone. When confronted, they would invariably say, “But it’s true!!!” To that, I would counter, “That may be so, but not all truths need to be spoken. Just because it’s true, does not mean you must feel compelled to remark upon it! Speak truth always, yes. But season it in a way that it is palatable.” I hoped and continue to hope, that if they do this, they will rarely offend the one to whom they speak.
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My Mama said the same thing that if I didn’t have anything nice to say just don’t say anything at all. Sometimes it’s best not to say anything. We can’t be salt and light if our communication is “thrown” to the wind. Great post!!
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You have missed the point of the article entirely.
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Whose idea was this, anyway? Go ahead and try it. You’ll find that, in addition to making a mess of your wall, the spaghetti will stick when it’s undercooked and overcooked as well as when it’s cooked just right, so you’ve proved nothing. The only sure way to know when pasta is done is to taste it, and what’s so hard about that? I mean, would you throw a spoonful of tomato sauce against the wall to see if it has enough salt? No, you would taste it, wouldn’t you? I swear some food myths must have been dreamed up by someone suffering from brain damage. Sheesh.