World Handshake Day-Etiquette


Tomorrow is World Handshake Day and I thought this would be a good time to talk about what your handshake says about you, especially in a business setting. Limp Handshake A limp hand is never a good idea when it comes to business either for men or for women. Prospective employees with a weak handshake have not been  hired.  I even know of one or two employees who was fired after making a poor mpression on the owner or top level manager.  Another kind of weak handshake that makes a poor impression is the shaking of fingers.  Shaking fingers may come off as condescending to women and is never appropriate for men. Bone Crusher Handshake A handshake should be a friendly or respectful greeting, not an arm wrestling championship. While you should return the grip in kind, you shouldn't struggle for power.  Even if the other person's grip is too strong, you should maintain a comfortable strong grip. An uncomfortable handshake is never a pleasant experience for anyone. It's bad form to crush ypur potential boss’ hand.  It may seem like overcompensating or showing off.  When done to a woman’s hand, it's especially unwelcomed. Handshake Tips 1. Before you shake hands, introduce yourself and keep eye contact. 2. Pump your hand only 2-3 times.  Less is more.  3. Shake hands from your elbow not your shoulder.  4. Don't put your other hand on top; that comes off as weird with men and condescending with women. 5. End a handshake after 2-3 pumps or before the oral introduction ends.  Any longer and it gets awkward. 6. If the handshake is awkward, either because of you or the other party, it's best to just move on.  Ask a quick question or make a comment to take the focus off the handshake.  Rememeber that a handshake is a big part of your first impression, especially in a business setting.  Make the most of it.  For more information on business communication, check out Say What You Mean When You're in Business.  Be sure to download the sample lesson at the bottom of that page.   ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ If you liked this post, read…Seven Reasons Why YOU Should Sign Up for the Art of Eloquence Newsletter

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  • Art of Eloquence

    My dh has a bone crusher handshake. Doesn’t mean to but he often hurt women so he has always tried hard to soften for women. He actually hurt his boss’ boss’ hand during the interview. lol


  • Carla

    I tend to note the type of handshake when someone shakes my hand. Last Thursday night, I was on a biz trip and everyone was grabbing my hand. I’m not used to it so it was a bit uncomfortable at first, but I noticed that the ladies had a lot of weak handshakes. I tried to keep mine fairly strong but not overly so. I didn’t get any bone crushers. WHEW!


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