What kind of confusion is most frustrating to YOU?


When communication is confusing, it becomes a frustrating task to engage in.  Now...some things are more frustrating for some than for others. I get all discombobulated if someone gives me unclear directions.  I can't tell which way is north and I can't figure out how one area fits in right next to another.  I usually tell people that I was born without the direction gene and get lost backing out of my own driveway.  Give me a set of directions where you don't make it clear that I shouldn't mistake Porcupine Street for Porcupine Lane and you might as well tell me to pack a lunch, because I'm going to be a while! Now my husband is, as they say, a whole 'nuther story!  That man can figure out how to get from Los Angeles to England without crossing the ocean!  He's been known to find Needles, California in a haystack.  He knows when Map Quest doesn't know what it's talking about!  While I can drive some place sixteen times and still need the directions, my husband remembers it forever if he's been there ONCE!  Where I can get lost because I've traveled there in the dark for the first time (even though It's only down the street from my house), my husband can find Mrs. Mason's mobile home parked in a forest obscured by ten thousand oak trees at midnight! Now send me mixed signals in a conversation and I'll follow you til the cows come home!  My mom and I will have a three hour discussion where my dad is confused because she didn't mention something that connects what she was talking about with what she's talking about now.  He's often surprised at how I'm still following her.  I know where she's going with the conversation so I don't need all the little transitions or details.  Neither does she.  We get each other. However, skip one teeny tiny detail when you're trying to tell me how to download something on my computer, and I'm completely lost.  Watch and learn how one small and clueless human being can singlehandedly, and in one click of a mouse, reduce a brand new computer to a quivering pile of microchips!  I'm that talented, folks! The frustration that comes from technology and getting lost for me is right up there with torture.  Forget the rack and thumbscrews, this is it!  I may be a bit uneasy when you talk circles around me in a conversation, but you won't need to call the little men in white coats.  I'll ask some clarifying questions, and we'll have some fun laughing about how we got through the conversation, but my sanity will arrive unscathed!  But put me in my own backyard at night, spin me around three times and watch as a lunatic is born! Knowing what frustrates the begeebers outta someone (like yourself) is a good insight into confusion you may cause others as you communicate.  We should always seek to speak clearly so as to avoid any confusion and the frustration of insanity it can bring. What confusing things are most frustrating to you?  Street signs?  Texting emails?  A three year old's explanation?  A politician's explanation?  Directions for putting Slot A into Flap B? (or maybe that should be the other way around?)   How can they remind you to be more clear?  How can they help you to be more patient and understanding with others?  How can you use your own frustrating experiences to help you avoid creating them in others? ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ JoJo Tabares holds a degree in Speech Communication.  Her Christian and humorous approach to communication skills has made her a sought after speaker.  JoJo’s articles have appeared in various homeschool magazines and websites such as Dr. Laura.com.  Her Say What You Mean curricula is endorsed by The Old Schoolhouse Magazine and her eBook, Say What You Mean When You’re in Business, has been used by direct sales leaders and small business owners alike.  For more information, please visit http://www.ArtofEloquence.com

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  • jojosblog

    Kimery,
    My dd’s friend lived not too far from us in a rather rural area. No street signs and the roads were not even paved. Turn right at the big tree was the only kind of directions she could give and I was soooo lost! ROFL She stood in the driveway waving us down!

    Gay,
    I understand how frustrating it can be to speak clearly but have someone be so confused and befuddled by life that they can’t understand. Sometimes we need to word things differently, maybe even less simply, in order for it to click for them. Life is complicated and sometimes folks expect things to be complicated so they can’t see the simplicity of some things. First rule of communication is, it’s the speakers job to be understood; not the listener’s job to try and understand. It can be difficult to try to reword things when we are already clear, but it’s often invaluable in being understood.


  • Gay Taunton

    Confounding things for me are:

    1) The fact that I can take photos with my cell phone but cannot download them to my PC (unless I spend the $$ on a special memory card)

    2) When I think I’m communicating thoroughly and the person(s) I’m speaking to still don’t understand and/or follow simple directions.


  • Kimery

    My husband HATES these kind of directions (or in his words taking directions from a farmer or a woman): Go to the third set of triple lights. When you come to the old oak tree with a yellow ribbon on it, turn left there. Go, for oh, about 6 blocks and turn right at the house with the pink roof and green shutters. Keep going until you see a church with a big steeple and turn left there. It’s about 6 houses down from you then. You can’t miss it. LOL
    He wants street signs and ‘north, south, east, west, left or right’.
    Me? I like mapquest AND the written directions it has with it. Hubby? Just wants the map. Our children are pretty evenly split so far, I think. One of our daughters, takes the GPS to find a friend’s house here in town and Waterloo isn’t all THAT big! LOL


  • jimmy

    cool


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