Comments on: Poll: Is Big Doctor Watching…Your Kids? http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/ “Try not to have a good time...this is supposed to be educational.” -Charles Schulz Sat, 13 Mar 2010 05:16:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: jojosblog http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1942 jojosblog Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:41:11 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1942 Unfortunately I never think to ask these things BEFORE I go in, but I have fired MANY a doctor in my lifetime. Unfortunately I never think to ask these things BEFORE I go in, but I have fired MANY a doctor in my lifetime.

]]> By: mel http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1941 mel Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:11:03 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1941 Hi JoJo! Well, it is not just kids who get these weird questions. When I found out I was pregnant back in May, I started looking for an OB. (This is my first baby since our move so I didn't have one.) You wouldn't believe the questions. "Did I feel safe at home? How many partners do I have? Does anyone in our home own a gun? Am I happy about the pregnancy? Was it a planned pregnancy?" Needless to say, I did not fill out the questionairre for those drs. that asked questions that had, IMHO, NOTHING to do with them caring for my baby! But I was shocked and dismayed. I thought it might only be here in WI but apparently not..... I think we really need to screen our drs. and find out where they stand on issues like vaccines, large families, homeschooling, etc. My husband always reminds me that it is a business and they work for us. We don't have to blindly listen to them- OR fill out their forms! Happy Thanksgiving! mel Hi JoJo!
Well, it is not just kids who get these weird questions. When I found out I was pregnant back in May, I started looking for an OB. (This is my first baby since our move so I didn’t have one.) You wouldn’t believe the questions. “Did I feel safe at home? How many partners do I have? Does anyone in our home own a gun? Am I happy about the pregnancy? Was it a planned pregnancy?” Needless to say, I did not fill out the questionairre for those drs. that asked questions that had, IMHO, NOTHING to do with them caring for my baby! But I was shocked and dismayed. I thought it might only be here in WI but apparently not….. I think we really need to screen our drs. and find out where they stand on issues like vaccines, large families, homeschooling, etc. My husband always reminds me that it is a business and they work for us. We don’t have to blindly listen to them- OR fill out their forms!

Happy Thanksgiving!
mel

]]> By: Laurie http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1940 Laurie Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:49:24 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1940 I always go with my children when they visit the Dr, which doesn't happen very often. The last time we went to the Dr was for my daughter, she ended up having strep throat. She hadn't been sick, so therefore, hadn't been to the Dr in about 2 years. The nurse gave me a very hard time about this and kept asking where else she went to the Dr. I spoke with the Dr about this...she said she'd talk with her nurse. There's NO way my children are going into that exam room with questions like those without me! The argument that some children are abused, so all must be asked these questions is ridiculous. Sorry. The information they glean from those questions can certainly be used against you, if they so choose. Just homeschooling can be "cause for concern". My husband and I accompany each other into our checkups, there's no way I'm not doing the same for my children. If a Dr has a problem with that, it's time to change Dr's. I always go with my children when they visit the Dr, which doesn’t happen very often. The last time we went to the Dr was for my daughter, she ended up having strep throat. She hadn’t been sick, so therefore, hadn’t been to the Dr in about 2 years. The nurse gave me a very hard time about this and kept asking where else she went to the Dr. I spoke with the Dr about this…she said she’d talk with her nurse.
There’s NO way my children are going into that exam room with questions like those without me!
The argument that some children are abused, so all must be asked these questions is ridiculous. Sorry. The information they glean from those questions can certainly be used against you, if they so choose. Just homeschooling can be “cause for concern”.

My husband and I accompany each other into our checkups, there’s no way I’m not doing the same for my children. If a Dr has a problem with that, it’s time to change Dr’s.

]]> By: Maya http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1939 Maya Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:24:11 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1939 On one hand it's good of doctors to ask certain questions if they suspect that the child is being abused at home. On the other hand it can be very intrusive and bordering on plain nosiness. I ALWAYS went in with our son when he was under age. Great blogpost, JoJo! On one hand it’s good of doctors to ask certain questions if they suspect that the child is being abused at home. On the other hand it can be very intrusive and bordering on plain nosiness.
I ALWAYS went in with our son when he was under age.

Great blogpost, JoJo!

]]> By: jojosblog http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1933 jojosblog Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:17:17 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1933 Thank you Heather! Great advice! Thank you Heather! Great advice!

]]> By: jojosblog http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1932 jojosblog Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:05:55 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1932 I thought about that also. How silly is it to ask the child with the mom standing there if she is the one who is abusing him. I once had a dr upset with me for coming into the room with my dd when he was examining her. It was for a shoulder injury torn ligament or something due to Karate. No bruises or anything. His argument was though that she was old enough to go in herself. Well, she was but I'm the mom and I wanted to know what was wrong and ask some questions and make sure HE didn't abuse her! I thought about that also. How silly is it to ask the child with the mom standing there if she is the one who is abusing him.

I once had a dr upset with me for coming into the room with my dd when he was examining her. It was for a shoulder injury torn ligament or something due to Karate. No bruises or anything. His argument was though that she was old enough to go in herself. Well, she was but I’m the mom and I wanted to know what was wrong and ask some questions and make sure HE didn’t abuse her!

]]> By: Wendy Orth http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1931 Wendy Orth Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:19:58 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1931 My kids (and I) get these questions all the time. What's most ludicrous is when I am in the room... "Do you feel safe at home?"... right, like a child who does NOT feel safe is going to say, "Why, yes, as a matter of fact, mom abuses me often." My kids have had to say that they *want* me in the room with them. They've had to say, "That's too personal... I'd prefer not to answer." My adult children still often want me with them, and my doctor knows that, but others don't. My 22 yo daughter is currently seeing a cardiologist. You bet she wanted me with her! Not only for support, but because two sets of ears listening are better than one! My kids (and I) get these questions all the time. What’s most ludicrous is when I am in the room… “Do you feel safe at home?”… right, like a child who does NOT feel safe is going to say, “Why, yes, as a matter of fact, mom abuses me often.”

My kids have had to say that they *want* me in the room with them. They’ve had to say, “That’s too personal… I’d prefer not to answer.” My adult children still often want me with them, and my doctor knows that, but others don’t. My 22 yo daughter is currently seeing a cardiologist. You bet she wanted me with her! Not only for support, but because two sets of ears listening are better than one!

]]> By: Heather Laurie http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1930 Heather Laurie Mon, 23 Nov 2009 20:45:53 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1930 I do a workshop on this subject. How to safely navigate the medical maze. I encourage parents to be word wise. Be clear. The dr's office or ER is no longer to time to be sarcastic or cute. Jokes and stories that do not directly relate to the issue at hand don't need to be said. There are also "special populations" that are watched extra careful for signs of abuse, special needs, elderly, non-verbal, and (to many professionals) homeschooled children. God bless Heather Laurie www.specialneedshomeschooling.com I do a workshop on this subject. How to safely navigate the medical maze. I encourage parents to be word wise. Be clear. The dr’s office or ER is no longer to time to be sarcastic or cute. Jokes and stories that do not directly relate to the issue at hand don’t need to be said.

There are also “special populations” that are watched extra careful for signs of abuse, special needs, elderly, non-verbal, and (to many professionals) homeschooled children.
God bless
Heather Laurie
http://www.specialneedshomeschooling.com

]]> By: jojosblog http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1929 jojosblog Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:35:37 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1929 I know and some of them NEVER get questioned. I think the system is broken because they are trying to find a one size fits all solution for a very complicated issue that is quite different for each person/family. People are no longer empowered by common sense and independent thinking but by a rigid formula. God didn't make cookie cutter people. I've said it so many times. There is no one size fits all solution. Instead, there should critical thinking, discernment and effective communication. I know and some of them NEVER get questioned. I think the system is broken because they are trying to find a one size fits all solution for a very complicated issue that is quite different for each person/family. People are no longer empowered by common sense and independent thinking but by a rigid formula. God didn’t make cookie cutter people. I’ve said it so many times. There is no one size fits all solution. Instead, there should critical thinking, discernment and effective communication.

]]> By: Cindy Holman http://artofeloquence.com/blog/dr-poll/comment-page-1/#comment-1928 Cindy Holman Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:16:14 +0000 http://artofeloquence.com/blog/?p=2360#comment-1928 Wow - it's shocking isn't it? However the flip side is that there ARE many children who are abused emotionally and physically as children - and no one intervened in their case - I'm sure they would have been glad to have been "taken away" - I have 2 very good friends who fall into this category. This is probably why they interrogate EVERYONE now. Not fair. But it simply must happen so that all children are safe. It's a conflicting subject to be sure as many innocent parents have been accused and that is not right. Wow – it’s shocking isn’t it? However the flip side is that there ARE many children who are abused emotionally and physically as children – and no one intervened in their case – I’m sure they would have been glad to have been “taken away” – I have 2 very good friends who fall into this category. This is probably why they interrogate EVERYONE now. Not fair. But it simply must happen so that all children are safe. It’s a conflicting subject to be sure as many innocent parents have been accused and that is not right.

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